Make it right again!

We meet people,greet people. Some become dearest ,some become friends,a few turn out to be our rivals. Some more like a family to us.But instead of moving on,we want a certain time of our lives to return. We always want something more than we get,something more from this life. An opportunity to take a few decisions again.To react in a way we should not have. A "TIME MACHINE " maybe..

Words unsaid, things undone , dreams unfilled , time wasted,aims uncompleted,promises broken and many REGRETS !

We all at some point in life are being imprudent actually, thinking about things that are not even likely to happen..  We always want things to go our way,and when they don’t we instead of trying harder give up !

No no,im not writing about taking the right decisions or career planning nor I am talking about things we should do to avoid risks in life- The unexpected failure ..  

Today,im writing about the regrets in life,that remain in our hearts always..

The one’s we really wish to erase out of ourlives, the ones that are really sickening..

The things we shouldn’t have done. Or maybe the things we should have done but we didn’t.

 They say,the saddest summary of life contains three words,could have,might have and should have.

Basically we live in a world ruled by us,by us all collectively . We see people taking benefit of us and this is because we take advantage of others.. in one way or the other,might not on purpose but still,we do it..  unjust conducts with others,which we donot really realize on the right time.This is US who create problems for others. This seems to be ok,as we’ve already trained ourselves to accept this way of being. Not caring about meaning and hidden lesson,not about the feeling of others, how cruelly we do things to others.  And regret later on.. its actually is of no use.. what’s the use of sympathy and clemency  when we actually make someone’s life worse thn death?

Yes,its us who do this.I repeat US !

we all have our preferences, we do favoritisms.. give advantages to the ones we like..And we really can’t help it because this is what a man is supposed to be doing .WE ALL MAKE BLUNDERS, and to err is human right?

But why do we regret things later? My opinion might fluctuate from others,but we really cant go back in the past and make things go our way.. make things go right. we don’t have a replay button afterall..

And we have to live with what we did and what people did to us. And they still do. There is no use of regretting things forever and ever. Besides,its something which at some point in life we assumed to be right,to be the best decision possibly. The world is a comedy to those who think,a tragedy to those who feel. Sorrows are like babies,they grow bigger with nursing.

Depressions ,suicides ,anxiety, frustrations and all the social problems. Aren’t they a prove that now we should be supportive , have a bigger heart,live our lives and let others live theirs,forgive others,stops creating issues out of small things,make life easier and simpler? THE SIMPLER THE BETTER , NO ?

There is more to life than problems,crises,dilemmas and difficulties..

And forgivness is not something we do for others,its something we do for ourselves to move on J

Life is too short for all these sorrows,disapointments,worries,cries and pains.

Don’t yield to misfortune but meet them with fortitude .
These REGRETS are merely a cause of depression,nobody else can ever understand our feelings.
Its useless to think about things that could have happend. Just forget the past and live in the present .

Besides all this, YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE J

Love ! J

L.I.F.E

A four letter word,yet  owns the whole kit and caboodle. 

The most authoritative and communicative word indeed.

The way we live it, merely depends on us. It is us who either make it trouble-free or troublesome. Each day brings new challenges,tests, task and encounters  but to deal with it tactfully is the key !

We might not get everything we desire but whatever we get, its an onus to enjoy it.

Live a meaningful life..

We always hear this term but we usually don’t extract the significance out of it..

I read something about a meaning ful life,I don’t actually remember  the words but it was something like..

Meaning is not something you stumble across,like the answer to a riddle or the prize in a treasure hunt. Meaning is something you build into your life.You build it out of your own past,out of your affections and loyalities,out of the experience of others as it is passed on to you,out of your own talent and understanding,out of the things you believed in,out of the things and people you love,out of the values for which you are willing to sacrifice something .Just implement these things in your life.Let it be a life you always wanted it to be, a life which is full of dignity and meaning , cuz if it does..It is a successful life for sure !

Choose your attitude..

 The way you accomplish your tasks decide whether or not your going to make it.

They say there might me luck in getting a god job,but there is no luck in keeping it.

I believe that there is always a choice about the way you do work,even if there is not a choice about the work itself.

Be pleasant to others..

I have a story to share , a story with a message i want to give..
There lived a struggling guy in lahore ( city of Pakistan).He could not get a good job,because of the less job opportunities and no job experience. He was doing a mediocre average paid job,good enough to fulfill his livings and expenditures . He  was a bachelor though.. he used to jog in a near by park every evening. He had a trick or call it a habbit that he used to greet everyone who comes encounter with him,with a smile .

During the jog,he always crossed  a foreigner . They never spoke to each other, but only had the smiling relation. Months passed by,and he could not get any better job. One of his friends suggested that he should apply for visa and go out to America or maybe Canada because there are more job opportunities available. He considered that opinion worth giving a try and thus,applied for visa. As he entered the embassy . he stood stunned  as the same “jog companion” was there.Actually the jog companion was the interrogator,.  He asked him the reason that why he was there, and he got his visa confirmed in a short span of time. All the formalities and documentations were cancelled by the foreigner and the applicant was sitting in Canada just in a month. He got a job there and worked day and night. And now he is an owner of a firm there. He says "i never gave up really,hard times did come to me but i was determined, sometimes i thought i should just back off but i still managed to relax. And now im sitting where people dream to be" .

Positivity , optimism and Sanguinity are only beneficial for us.

WORK MADE FUN GETS DONE :)

JUST GIVE IT A THOUGHT ^^

NATION BUILDING AND THE YOUTH :  

A mother is the one who feeds, nourishes, teaches and educates her child. She is the one who gives the basic sense of right and wrong, the one without who the life and existence of a man is meaningless, worth less and a total waste.One would be hazardous, unsafe and treacherous for others.. whose love and affection  completes one’s personality, the one who teaches us right from the wrong. In other words , a man is nothing without his mother..

SIMILARLY  the “YOUTH” does the same for a nation.  Civilized, cultured, mannered, practical and hardworking youth is the reason behind the economic, commercial and financial uplift of a country.

We the youth always think that we cant do anything, we don’t have the say in the society, we lack the confidence or maybe we are just too lazy to get up and do something worth wile, productive,usuful and beneficial for our country .We prefer watching movies, listening to the latest songs, discussing the latest fashion trends,talks about the latest electronic gadgets and the usual gossips .. But nonetheless it’s the youth which is the reason behind the success and attainments of a country .

As we can see that the social injustice is intensifying day by day,it is the time when we should getup and come to life. Here,im gona share a few things I think can bring revolution in the society . Its just my opinion, and as mentioned earlier ideas do differ from person to person J..

1)HATE SELFISHNESS,LOVE OTHERS :

 love is the sentiment that bounds the people of this world in a single knot .. spread love rather than fights and aggression , violence and hostility .I believe that the greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved.A contented  youth gives the max output. Discourage selfishness and egotism as countries never grow and flourish with such rotten emotions .

2)SPEAK TRUTH AND ENUSRE NOVELTY : 

There is no religion in the world who doesn’t encourage truth, truth leads to sincerity and honesty . And honest people are the building units of a prosperous nation. Boost the people who come up with new ideas and innovations, no matter how foolish they sound .. The history is a witness that a genius always sounds strange to the people of this world at the first attempt but later HE become the godfathers  to many . Just believe in the abilities of others and never underestimate and misjudge others on your preferences,idols and favourites.

3) BE JUST ESPECIALLY IN TESTING SITUATIONS :

 People who are hate able and maddening  for you, might be loveable, perfect and ideal to others. Open your minds and hearts to other rather than being confined to what you think and believe. There is a mammoth  world waiting for you out there ,“to err is human,to forgive is devine” all you gota do is forgive others though it is hard but still lets try?.. and don’t judge others on your self made scales !

4) DON’T TAX OTHERS,SUPPORT THEM IN NEED : 

Aaaaa .. we youth are always dependent on others,we need friends,parents,relatives and some support to be with us ALWAYS ! no matter what you think,but the truth is WE ALL DO NEED OTHERS ! a man is tested in need,judge people when you want them And most of the time you find yourself unaided and this makes  understand the duel faces of people and a harsh reality of this world . As bad as it feels when nobody helps you in need, it feels the same way to others when you don’t help them .Dont be mean  and nasty, situations can come to anyone .power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely

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5) EXPECT LESS,PROVIDE MORE : 

The more you expect from others,the more it hurts when the expectations are not fulfilled. Just let things go,help others in need cuz its all fruitful at some point in life. Probably not today,but sooner or later you do get the reward of whatever benevolence you do to others J

6)WHEN IN POSITION.DISTRIBUTE WITH JUSTICE :

Lets suppose you’re having grapes and juices in your garden and a bomb explodes in the next street,what would you do except dyeing,and leaving all the luxuries of the world as they were ? It doesn’t take more than a second to get an angina attack, or paralysis,it is natural to die as to born .. Ha-ha I can draw a horrible picture out of anything :p.. but oh well..

So when you’re given authority give rights to others as well. Don’t be a miser  and squirrel :p Equality and fairness is enjoyed by all .

7)BELIVE IN CHARITY : 

It is believed that charity delays the upcoming problems. So believe in charity and help others with an open heart. Cuz God in one way or the other,gives it back to you ! J Think on a larger scale, not only problems from you but from your nation can be delayed too cuz whatever we do good or bad comes up on our country, it’s the good deeds of the inhabitants  that earn betterment to their land .

8)BELIEVE IN MORAL VALUES AND DIGNITY OF HUMAN RACE : 

Don’t humiliate others,and respect others. I mentioned this in my previous right up too.

9) TAKE ONLY WHAT YOU EARN.BELIEVE IN HARDWORK,FORGET SHORTCUTS :

There  is no short cut to success and we all know this. So work hard, not  only for you and your families but for your country. The land which has given you so much,liberty, freedom, education.A respectable place in the sight of others, isn’t it our responsibility to pay it back? ITS HIGH TIME AFTER ALL  .. J

And the factor which for me is greater than all is..

SAY NO TO NEPOTISM,FAVOURITISM,NEGATIVE POLITICS AND POLARIZATION ON THE BASIS OF CAST,CREED,RELIGION,LINGUISTICS AND RACE .

Love J !  

self control !!

after all the blogs ive gone through .. i discovered one really thought provoking.
It was about anger management , but it too didn mention all the factors that are involved .. a fomous quote says:

"im indeed a king as i know how to control myself "

i was just analysing a couple of quotes and i was utterly,greatly and deeply touched by this one !
seriously, we all should have some self control,we should learn to tame our temper. We should understand that we can't just finish off the ones we don't like. we should take each other opinion with an open heart even if it goes against ours. the respect thing goes on the GIVE AND TAKE rule :)

I really think the youth has overlooked this fact, its not what our moral values,mannerism and humanity teaches us. Ideas do differ from person to person,but there is no way we can enforce our thoughts,opinions,views, judgements and beliefs onto others right ? THIS IS HOW IT GOES....

BURNING WITH THE ENVY OF OTHERS !!

Dignity,love,manners,culture and customs,humanity and moral values are the things letting us live in this world. People love others because of their positive behaviour and in order to get respect we have to earn it
.. :)

then where does this jealousy,hatred, abhorrence and feelings of envy and superiority get into us? i really don't understand.

you should admire and adopt other's talents,skills, capabilities and abilities rather thn thinking that you're perfect 

"rivalory without ability never leads to prosperity "

we should adopt other's good habbit and accept the fact that they can be better thn us,but we sooner or later CAN DO WHAT THEY ARE GOOD AT,MAYBE BETTER THN THEM !

Because we are not perfect and the fact is no one  is perfect. There is always someone who is better than us,and others probably  better than them ..

"WORRY DOESN'T TAKE THE PAIN OUT OF TOMORROW,IT MERELY TAKES THE JOY OUT OF TODAY"
Learn to be positive and appreciate others

love ! :)

career and teenagers:

I just couldnt go to sleep so i thought i should write something , im fond of writing. and i think, ill improvise my skills this way :D

anyway what should i write about ? hmmm , as my main focus is teenagers so yeah,ill write something about them (im saying as if ive passed this period or so) haha.. sometimes i behave so mature that i end up laughing at my own self :D

okay.. so another thing that we "teenagers" face is our dreams and career problems.. at the age of "16 to 18" we usually get a lot of choices in front of us,but the selection matters alot. I was going through some researches and analysis and i read that students who are going through this period are being pressurized a lot. Our parents want something productive from us,out teachers eventually want the same but they say something really different. Influence of friends is another factor and we end up with a confused puzzled double mind which cause serious trouble for the society  :/

i shall share you my personal experience,my parents wanted me to be a doctor,my teachers wanted me to go either on the business side or the engineering side.My freinds wanted me to chill and dont do anything haha.. naah,they were like do what so ever you feel like doin (too liberal perhaps ) :D

i chose the engineering side,im still in the pre engineering batch. it all depends on my marks ( please pray for me) . My parents are co-operative they said do whatever feels right to you just do it and make us proud .. 

but my grand father, he scolded me so much that i dont have words for it ! 

Why in the world he doesnt realise that its not about the status? there is no harm in being an engineer rather than being a doctor as long as im independent and doing a good job !! Me like most of us feel that i'll have to prove myself . i'll tell all those people who said "naah you can't that i can,i can,i can !! obviously its a secretive talk between me and all of you. people usually donot understand our state of mind and start challenging.Is it right by any way?   

i want to make my parents proud,my teachers and colleagues. i want to be the best. i want to have the best friends,the best institute,the best reputed firm to work in :D haha.. man ! i know we all feel the same way,its just some say and some donot :D

But not all parents are liberal, i have a friends whose brother attempted to suicide just because of the career issues. What he wanted his parents didnt. they pressurized him so much that he prefered giving up on his life rather than siting with them and telling them his view point but lucky him,after the incident his parents granted him the permission to do whatever he wanted to and he is a well known music director now maybe his parents could'nt stand the shock or maybe they couldn't tolerate so much at such ages. . anyway at the end i have ..

A message to all teenagers that donot DONOT   do things which not only cause harm to you,but embarrassment  for your family too.

and a message to all parents out there : please donot pressurize your kids so much,give them space to live,give them time to think. let them do whatever they want to. No profession is wrong. even a cobbler,a barber and a sweeper contributes something to their country. so why do you snub your kids so much that they not only stop doing what they were capable of,they even stop doing EVERY POSSIBLE THING a man can do !

alas ! people might not read this or maybe they read it but don't pay much attention and face the consequences later !

please people please. You get this life once,just enjoy and be free. not bound yourselves to such aims and goals which leads to something you regret later on .. live and let live :)

love ! :)